You need to ask yourself the hard questions because you are ultimately accountable to yourself. If you've had multiple procedures, ask yourself if you have an addiction problem. Are you trying to fix some psychological problem with a physical solution? You want to fix the psychological problem, if it exists, and then if you want to have the surgery, do it for the right reasons, and be prepared to live with the result.
Plastic surgery is not what is going to make your mark in this world. Being a good parent, or friend, for example, is how you leave a legacy and impact the world.
Ask yourself if you really have a problem. If you're healthy and have good genes, do you really have a problem that needs to be fixed with a surgical solution?
What messages are you giving yourself that make you think you need surgery? Are you negating your positive qualities (honesty, loyalty, intelligence, humour, etc.) and hoping that plastic surgery can give you what you feel you lack?
How do you expect to feel about yourself if you go ahead and get the procedure? Are you looking for a different body, or are you really hoping to attain self-esteem?
There is no reality, only perception. If your self-esteem is so low that you view yourself through a filter of self-rejection ("I'm ugly" or "I'm fat"), all the surgery in the world isn't going to make a difference. If you don't change the filter through which you look when you see yourself in the mirror, you'll never be happy.
The only person who can give you what you want is you. Nobody else can give you the self-esteem you need to have a healthy body image. A surgeon can't. The only thing that can "fix" you for you comes from the inside not the outside.
If you have plastic surgery because of what someone else thinks, you are letting your self-worth be governed by someone else. This isn't about how everybody else feels about you. This is how you feel about you.
If you're thinking about how you look, you're not thinking about who you are. Make a distinction between the way you are wrapped and who you are on the inside.
Remember that in the history of the entire world, there has never been another you. And there never will be. You were made to be uniquely you. And for you to reject that and say 'I'm not good enough for me' is not OKAY.
Am I choosing to enhance my appearance for me? I know that others may support me, but no one is pressuring me.
Am I realistic about the results of the surgery? I understand that plastic surgery can improve my appearance, but it cannot change my life. Plastic surgery cannot give perfection!
Do I fully understand and accept the potential risks associated with my procedure? I know that there are no guarantees and the results of my treatment may be permanent. I have been (or will be) given informed consent documents and pre- and post-procedure instructions.
Am I in good shape physically and emotionally? There are no underlying health disorders or mental health conditions I have not disclosed to my surgeon.
Do I smoke? I fully understand that I must stop smoking completely at least 8 weeks pre surgery (if not sooner) as smoking will affect my recovery: slower recovery, high rate for infections and wound breakdown. There is a high possibility that the surgeon will refuse my surgery if I do not stop smoking.
Can I afford this? I can afford all the costs of surgery, including non-monetary costs such as the time to recover when back home, as well as flights and hotel costs and spending money while overseas.
Why is now the right time for my surgery, rather than a month or a year ago, or, conversely, a month or a year from now? The timing fits my schedule. I have not been pushed to schedule surgery and I am not feeling pressured to commit to a plan before I am ready.
Is the decision to have surgery totally mine? The decision to have plastic surgery is mine and mine alone, I take total responsibility for this decision. Once in the consultation with the surgeon in Bangkok, if I go ahead with the surgery, then this is totally my decision and I accept all responsibility. Medi Makeovers and friends and family have not decided nor pressured me to make this decision. I understand that Medi Makeovers are not qualified to give any medical or treatment advice of any kind. Medi Makeovers simply assist in making the introductions to medical professionals and attends to securing hotel bookings and flight arrangements. Any issues which arise from my medical procedure must be addressed with the qualified medical professional and the hospitals administrators who I consulted and who provided the treatment. As a medical tourism facilitator Medi Makeovers are not qualified nor is it their role to advocate on my behalf on these issues.
Once you've worked through the questions, you may want to talk about them with a trusted friend or family member and certainly with your plastic surgeon. After all, you and your physician will make the final decision about your surgical plan. Realistic expectations will better prepare you for surgery, and prepared patients make the best recovery. If your answers are different to the above we strongly suggest that you review your decision and take more time with your decision.
In Your Consultation
When in the actual consultation we suggest you ask the following questions:
How many times has the physician performed the procedure?
How long has the physician performed the procedure?
What other procedures does he/she perform?
Who will assist in the procedure? Their qualifications and training?
Are all involved licensed in good standing?
What is involved in the procedure? How is it performed?
What is the exact breakdown of fees for this procedure?
Can I get advance copies of all forms I have to complete and sign prior to procedure?
What type of anaesthesia will be used for my surgery?
How long will the procedure last?
How long will the sedation effects last?
How long will I be in recovery, will I go to ICU?
Where will the surgery take place?
To which hospital would you be taken?
Will post-operative medicine be necessary?
Will there be noticeable scarring?
What realistic result can I expect?
Will the physician perform the procedure from the first cut to the last stitch?
What are the risks associated with this procedure?
What are the warning signs or concerns to watch for?
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DO NOT LEAVE THE CONSULTATION IF YOU ARE NOT FULLY AWARE OF WHAT WILL HAPPEN.
IF YOU HAVE ANY FURTHER QUESTIONS – PLEASE ASK.
IF YOU FEEL PRESSURED AT ALL DURING THE CONSULTATION AND WANT TO LEAVE OR HAVE A BREAK – PLEASE DO THIS – DO NOT PROCEED.
ONLY SIGN DOCUMENTS AND PAY FOR THE PROCEDURES IF YOU ARE FULLY HAPPY AND AGREE AND ACCEPT WHAT THE SURGEON HAS SUGGESTED AND ADVISED FOR YOU.
THIS AGREEMENT IS ONLY BETWEEN YOU, THE SURGEON AND HOSPITAL – SO PLEASE MAKE SURE YOU UNDERSTAND AND AGREE TO GO AHEAD. MEDI MAKEOVERS IS NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR DECISION SO PLEASE BE VERY CLEAR BEFORE AGREEEING TO SURGERY.
If your plastic surgeon can give good answers to all of these questions, then you are probably in very good hands. Still, you must guard against unrealistic expectations. If you are Quasimodo or one of the ugly step sisters, the best surgeon in the world cannot transform you into Brad Pitt or Cinderella. And remember, if you are showing your surgeon photos of others' surgery outcomes - if you don't look like their before, you won't look like their after. Be realistic about your surgery and your recovery.